Kamala Devi et. al.: POLYAMORY ON SHOWTIME: Episodes
Here’s how the show was previewed:
We lack Episode 1; if you can send it to Dr. Lessin at worldpolyamory@aol.com, Janet’ll add them to this post.
Episode 2
Episode 3
http://bcove.me/vwjzfuwn [click the hotlink]
Episode 4http://bcove.me/vwjzfuwn [click the hotlink]
http://bcove.me/o6av1ixs [click the hotlink]
Episode 5
But the old ex brings Jen flowers. They all have a good time through the evening. The party is also the biweekly San Diego poly discussion group. The first contact with the wider poly community that Anthony, Vanessa, and Lindsey have had. They’re nervous as they drive there, hoping that they’ll find community where they can connect and draw wisdom and support, but are prepared for disappointment. They come away thrilled to have found even more than they hoped.
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Episode 6
http://bcove.me/o49l24on [click the hotlink]
http://bcove.me/fsjwnq81 [click the hotlink]
Episode 7
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http://link.brightcove.com/services/player/bcpid29474209001?bckey=AQ~~,AAAAAAAA9pg~,GnOHJwU2r3sFsJRSf1bvZ_iPYmWg8io0&bctid=1788895228001
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DR. DREW SHOW INTERVIEW RE POLY ON SHOWTIME
Article by Janet Kira Lessin
HOW DO YOU DO POLY? By Janet Kira Lessin www.worldpolyamoryassociation
Janet Lessin, who chairs the panel “How We Do Poly” at the Harbin Hot Springs (CA) Polyamory Conference ( July each year) as a poly pilgrim who experienced many poly options and invites you to share yours on this site.
CONNECTING AT A POLY-TANTRA RITUAL
Excerpt from Polyamory: The Poly-Tantra Lovestyle by Janet Kira Lessin, Chief Focalizer, World Polyamory Association
Part 1: Janet’s Reflections
I’m World Polyamory Association’s Chief Head Focalizer, yet I spend most of my residential lovelife monogamously with my husband, Sasha, rather than living polyamorously with our lovers. Most of our lovers live elsewhere; we call them our non-residential POLY-POD. While we wait for our pod-mates to complete what they must so they can come live with us here on Maui, we date others and our pod-mates date other lovers others too.
On Maui, Sasha and I teach tantra school and coach individuals, couples, triads and moresomes where we meet many open-minded and like-minded people whom we vet as prospective poly-mates and pod-mates. From this process we learn how much family-of-origin deprogramming prospective lovers have done.
If, on the one hand, we discover we and they experience mutual attraction, we wait until they complete tantra school or coaching. We keep ethical distance from them while we teach or coach them. When we finish our professional relationship, we may date each other. But if, during our professional relating, we see that they need lots of reprogramming, we won’t admit them to our pod until they rescript much. They must uplevel their emotion-based childhood-anchored addictive demands into preferences before we’ll date them.
Around the Holidays, Annie–a Mainlander who’d studied tantra with us years back–and her partner Erik visited us and we all hit it off. We invited them to our New Year’s Tantra Ritual.
I had no sex-pectations of any of the others joining us for the intimate sexual parts of the evening Ritual, though I knew I’d make love to Sasha at Midnight. At Midnight every New Years Sash and I recommit and remarry each other.
The Ritual moved me, to my surprise, into Erik’s arms. Rarely do I vibrate sexually like I did for Erik. The older I get, the pickier I get. While I can love someone and even make love with him or her, it’s not with the kind of skyrockets and fireworks I felt in Erik’s arms. I remembered I had a tingle of interest–but not a heart-throb falling-in-love sensation–in Erik when we met. But tonight there was something about his arms. Suddenly, we were kissing.
I forced myself to pull back from his kiss. I went to Sasha and Annie (Erik’s partner), to ask their permission. I always disbelief I’m permitted to go to intimate places with a new lover and not lose my partner or distress my new lover’s partner. Earlier in my poly pilgrimage, I hurt a woman when I had an affair with her husband. And now, 15 years later, with guilt and shame from this earlier episode salient in my psyche, I still hesitate and ask for approval and permission. However, in this now, Sasha smiled. Annie said, “Sure, have fun.” So Erik and I went for it.
Amazing stuff, love. Powerful thing, sex. I went there with full abandon. Erik met me. I have this uncanny ability to merge consciousness, submit to a total surrender. He did too. We met in time and space. We merged consciousness, experiencing past and future lives, dancing in the cosmos. We remembered we’ve been together before, in other times, other bodies, other places. We wore each other out. Erik and I returned to Annie and Sash, then we both went on to play with some of the other people at the Ritual.
Sasha and I joined all our chakras when we made love at midnight. We proposed again to each. We again wed, recommitted to our vows, pledged new vows, lit candles and announced, “We are wed again.” The group roared, celebrated our love.
We all had orgasms in the honor of peace. Hope our sex magick works. We all dedicated our lovemaking to compassionate world peace. The group paused to sing peace songs, pray, wish, meditate, and picture humanity gaining enough sanity to save itself. Time for us to become a civilized civilization.
We celebrated the birth of the New Year past Midnight. Erik and I returned to each other and made love again several times as the year’s first hours flew by. Finally, around dawn, Sasha and I staggered upstairs and welcomed the New Year with one last joining. All the energy from
the hours of lovemaking and orgasming that night crescended for Sash and I as we roared and climaxed together.
Next morning, all the participants in the New Year’s Tantra Ritual gathered, ate and relived the evening. We each shared our emotions. We said what, for each of us, was the most and least favorite experience last night. No one had a least favorite. All appreciated and celebrated what we’d said and done and felt about each other.
Next day, Annie left Maui; Erik was to stay here another week. When he called us, we invited him over for a date. He said he and Annie agreed to only love others together, but said he’d call and ask Annie if she’d release him to connect with us. “Don’t”, I said, “Don’t pressure her.” Instead, we reviewed dates the three of us could join Annie again–probably next New Year Ritual.
That’s when I realized I’d been harboring sexpectations! I’d fantasized Annie and Erik would be “the ones.” Sigh, when will I ever learn? But wait? Before I fall down my dark hole again, that hole of relationship dysfunction where I require people to act as I wish, do what I will–is there another way to see this? I took a deep breath and looked again.
I told myself I can appreciate what Erik and I had. I can hold our connection in my heart and mind as whole and complete in of itself. Erik and I shared deep, intimate, divine love. He doesn’t have to do anything more for what we HAVE (and I purposely use the present tense). What we HAVE need never be anything more or less than it is. It simply is. We love. We are love. Whether or not we get to make love soon or not is not really important. Erik doesn’t have to marry me, live with me or realistically ever see me again. We have love, here, there, alive, dead and our love is/was/always will be. That’s just the way it is.
We all originate from divine loving oneness. Occasionally we’re brave to surrender to that oneness and remember from whence we came. Lovers have been transcending their separate self-senses, communing each other, touching each other’s spirits and experiencing unity with the omnipresent divine for centuries. Now, with modern tantra and consensual polyamory, you can love more than one person. You can love two or more lovers intimately, deeply, passionately, romantically. You needn’t divorce, demonize, separate, leave your partner to find love. You can love one person AND also love another person at the same time. I have the best of all worlds–my twin flame (Sasha), soul mates (you know who you are), polyamory (many loves and monogamy (one marriage). It’s so deliciously delightful.
With polyamory I have my cake, eat it too and while I’m at it, I also have a side of chocolate ice cream.
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Part 2: “ERIK’S” REFLECTIONS:
Howdy. I’m the “Erik” mentioned in Janet’s post [above] (which, contrary to netiquette, I quote in it’s entirety due to the ground covered).
When “Annie” (my partner of 17 years) and I walked into Janet & Sasha Lessin’s home, I pretty much knew the setting. Annie had attended the School of Tantra for several weeks by herself a few years ago. Their great room which triples as yoga studio, living room and study hall generates a LOT of positive energy. Surrounded by tropical forest and overlooking Maui’s north shore, it’s the ideal secluded spot for a Tantra school.
I’m biased and often judge people by the company they keep. The Lessins easily jumped through this hoop. Their friends and lovers greeted us with a warmth and transparency few outside the polyamory/intentional community movements realize exists. Annie whispered, “I told you it was like this.”
Talking to Sasha and Janet, we immediately established a bond and respect. I soon came to regard them as a brother and sister. I’m a budding Tantra instructor in a small town. Lineages which brought us to the nexus of our meeting were often the same. We’re all longtime polys (Sasha and I had been polyamorous before the term existed). All had experienced the hands-on sensuality training emanating from More University. Experience in bonuses and trials of Intentional Community were a given. Deep and abiding awareness of consciousness expansion and evolution through Tantra was understood by everyone. Radical transparency (NOT caustic Radical Honesty ™) permeated everything. None seek gurus.
We all live in powerful Places. The common denominator to all of this was Love.
Sasha invited us to a New Year’s Tantra Ritual they were hosting in a few days. Annie and I looked at each other and immediately accepted; I had long voiced my desire to experience Tantra with the Lessins. While it was an honor to receive an outsider invitation to an event with 10 or 12 of their intimate friends, there was also a hint of destiny. Of course, we were supposed to meet! I had no personal demands for sexual contact; my deepest desire was for intense Tantric energy development… be it masturbation, couples-play or group-play. The puja turned into largely group-play.
Everyone received the energy and heart opening personally sought. Rather than an orgy of individuals celebrating pleasure, there was a greater awareness of being a woven mat of souls using Sacred Sexuality as a transcendent tool. It was a privilege being in a room with so many adepts who’d spent lifetimes cultivating the skills of body, mind and soul which brought us together. People not intensely on this path would be repulsed or consumed by the Fire.
I connected with a number of people, but will concentrate on Janet. Her reflections accurately indicates extraordinary things happened. Reading Janet’s internet essays, I knew I’d meet an intelligent, spiritual, turned-on woman. I also knew she undergoes a thorough process establishing communication and trust before sexually connecting. This turned out to be wrong (we had only recently met) and right (we obviously have many past life experiences). Shortly after our first kiss, we both felt a familiarity only souls trailing each other can feel. Sexual breathing techniques I did (heck, probably both us did) brought us onto a very elevated plane of consciousness. Every stroke and touch was a poetic expression of divine worship. When her yoni embraced my lingam, I had the distinct impression of a card deck of lifetimes being spun in front of us. Except, this wasn’t a 52 card deck; it was more like a 5200 deck of lifetimes and love sessions flipping past. Oh, Tantra, I kneel before you! We achieved a state of mutual orgasm which didn’t climax or dissipate for hours. This was a source of prayer and knowledge, a validation of our deepest dreams and desires.
For most lovers, Kundalini energy is a benevolent faucet drip which adds icing to the cake. Janet and I launched into a full bore pipeline of shared Kundalini. At that point, Tantric lessons and techniques fall by the wayside and become impediments. Nirvana has been achieved and is self cultivating.
Janet and I knew our time together was short and exchanged words which proved the mutual experience we shared; we knew the state we’d achieved is essential for planetary evolution and survival, and that our path is Poly Tantra. We know each other very well, and have connected many, many times.
While some readers undoubtedly find Tantra to not be their path to the mountain top, I encourage all to seek some path and honor the efforts of others. Once we get to the top, the view is the same.
Unfortunately, Annie and I have careers which preclude moving to Hawaii. Similarly, Sasha and Janet have work to do on Maui. Nonetheless, we hope to meet again and continue our relationship.
Ahem… I end this missive blessing Sasha and Annie for allowing Janet and me unlimited freedom to explode together. Polyamory is the fulcrum which makes this possible. Without “compersion” (the opposite of jealousy; taking delight when a partner finds delight with another), this could never have been possible. Because of this, polyamory is an essential part of our sacred path.
Knowing the Lessins and their coursework, I highly recommend their School of Tantra to beginners and advanced students alike.
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